There is a commercial for Vegas where the limo driver says that “you need a break from the same-old, same-old. Because it’s the same. And it’s old.” This also applies to date-night.
So, since no one wants to be the same and old, you are going to want to explore new events and activities, and you need to focus on what is fun, not necessarily “date night” approved. Here are some things to keep in mind when you are planning your weekend time together:
- Date night doesn’t have to take place at night. Our new-found freedom started out with day-dates. We still had one son at home who had hockey games at night on the weekends. There is still a lot of fun to be had during the daytime hours. When the weather gets nicer there are festivals, hiking, outdoor concerts, and multiple parks to visit. During the colder weather you can explore museums, see shows, or tour breweries/distilleries.
- Just because you are moving away from dinner and a movie, doesn’t mean you still can’t eat. I really like to eat. Exploring new restaurants and foods is something that makes me happy. Eating at the same place all the time does not. Plan a fun activity during the day and have dinner afterwards. Or make your activity about eating. Attend a food truck festival, explore a food hall, attend a cooking event, etc.
- Reconnecting with your partner doesn’t mean you have to do it alone. Having another couple or two tag along on a fun activity is not taking away from you spending quality time with your significant other. You are still experiencing the event/activity together. And some things are just more fun with a group, such as bowling, escape rooms, or game nights.
- Not everything has to be a repeat activity. Try something new. If you have fun doing it, keep it in your regular rotation. If you didn’t enjoy it, at least you can say you did it once. Ultimately sporting events, casinos, and horseback riding are not for everyone. Worst case, you spent money on something you didn’t enjoy. Best case, maybe you have great pictures or a story about it that you can share with others.
- Not everything has to cost a lot of money. I love a bargain just as much as the next person. Museums have free admission days throughout the year. Some festivals have free admission. Groupon is a great source for saving money. There are apps to help you find free/cheap parking. Some adventures might only cost you the gas it takes to get you there like hiking and car shows.
- Not everything has to take place within a 25 mile radius of your home base. Spread your wings. Unless you have a time limit, your options are limitless. Road trips are a great time to talk about what is going on or to listen to music/podcasts that you both enjoy. Even better, they are a great way to explore new towns. If you like to do a certain activity, say mini golf, drive 45-60 minutes away to explore a different course. And then have lunch or dinner at a restaurant you would otherwise never have gone to.
It’s your time now – have fun with it!